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First Semester friends forever (Forever: Till the end of the semester)

Before getting into university, A lot of us have heard the phrase “University is the place you will be making life long friendships” and it’s not like the people who use this exceptionally promising line have never witnessed it themselves, These guys talk from experience, They walk the talk, with pictures and hangouts that date from their university time till date and forevermore.  This little thought of meeting “People whom you could share a lifetime with” excites you and gives you, yet another reason to look forward to university.

So, as university begins, naturally, you have a lot of feelings rushing through you, meeting some of your old friends who got into the same place and mostly, making new ones. You start looking for your new friends right away, you’re nice to everyone around you and you can’t wait to just find that “Click”, Eventually time passes and you meet someone you definitely click with, You won’t even realize they’re the one until like….five days. Most probably this so called ‘Constant’ and you will either 1) Comment on something and agree to it 2) Laugh at the same thing 3)Find some other stupid thing in common. Soon, you start sitting together in the classes that you have in common, then you start saving seats, then a couple more people hop on board and join this booming friendship, and then comes the best part, You guys *Wait for it* start hanging out in the break- All in the matter of a month.

Jis taiezie ke sath aapki dosti barhti hai, ussi shidat ke saath aap logo ki snapchat stories ki timings aur aik doosray ki social media par appearances bhiii bhartay hain. Birthdays per surprises ka level up hota rehta hai and let’s not even get started on the study sessions. Everything seems perfect, you start thinking of all the cool movies you saw with amazing group of friends and start relating your life to all of them, only…better.

But “All good…or not so good things must come to an end” and all of a sudden there’s that one fight, argument or disagreement after which things get a bit awkward. After the first one, you guys will make up. But just when things are about to cool down there will be that one hellbound person who will come up and say “Chill karo, you guysssssssss” and its something about the way they say this line, suntay hi ooper se le kar neechay tak aaag lag jaati hai. And deeeeeeep down you probably know this was the kind of person you wish you never met.

Even after what seems like things being normalized, the real shit starts after it cools down. Some people, no matter how much they claim to be “over it”..Are NOT over it. And in one of the subsect of the group someone sparks the fire and brings up the topic “I am glad things worked out but, usko nai karna chahyei tha” and the rest is history. One thing leads to another, add in a couple more of disagreements, a little bit of this, a little bit of that and sooner or later you would start distancing yourself and hanging out with other people, bit by bit, making excuses to plans, that once so active whatsApp group will seem to go lower or lower on your chat list unless that one loser whom you still don’t remember adding to the group sends a random meme and sympathy me kuch loog “Hahaha” ya “Lol” likhdetay hain.

University break arrives, some of the members end up meeting others don’t and once university reopens, All you pass each other are random smiles and waves, you have conversations once in a while but that’s the end of it. By the time a few years pass, You can’t even believe you guys were once friends.

So why does this happen, be it a group of friends or two friends or what not? It’s because we often become so attracted to the IDEA of the “university friends last forever” that we tend to jump into the idea in our head right away, ignoring reality. It is similar to the ‘Honeymoon effect’ right when you start out, things seem perfect but when reality kicks in and your true selves come out, the compatibility is often wayyyyyy off.  Initially when you enter university, you want to come off as picture perfect most of the times and so everyone is at their best but there is only so long one can keep that up for, with times, your mindset and preferences both change in different ways and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Chances are this has happened to you OR to people around you, you may see people who once used to hangout together as if their bodies were stitched together but don’t anymore. You  might even get curious and ask around as to what happened, and you’ll get to listen to various sides of  exaggerated stories by people who have nothing better to do or either of the parties, but sadly you may never find out the REAL truth about what happened, be it if it did after a semester a year or more.

We can put it down in a million different ways but the fact of the matter is simple, Sometimes when people grow, They grow apart and as you grow apart, you also move forward, to a more happier you, to a better you, a more YOU, you (if that makes any sense). One class at a time, one semester closer.


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Welcoming Corporate rejections with open arms :) :) :)

Entering into University life, the word ‘Rejection’  becomes a constant companion. It’s like that person in high school, who was the most annoying little shit, but was the only one who stayed through the years and now you’ve sort of accepted their presence in your life. However, just because you have accepted their presence, doesn’t mean they don’t bother you. This so called annoying person continues to blow up some of the best chances for you, be it an opportunity to hang out with the cool kids, or a plan you were hoping would work out, The only reason this person is even alive is because:- 1) Killing is illegal 2) Sometimes just SOMETIMES their presence saves you from things you initially didn’t think you needed saving from.

So before we even make it past the first year of university, we’ve made a lot of memories with our friend, Rejection. Like that university you wanted to get into, the scholarship you were hoping to get, the one person you thought was your soul mate, the course you really wanted to get enrolled in, the first out-of-city trip you wanted to go on, the hangout plan with friends (Even after you gave your parents a two week prior notice) and of course, the rejected debit card.

But despite all our interactions none of these rejections hurt, as much as the first rejection email from that one company you applied to. As the phrase goes “Paeeeir talaay zameen nikal jaati hai”. But here’s what’s most amusing about these emails, apart from the fact that they are very articulately put together, they will start off by making you feel as if you’re Beyoncé or something. Literally, the introduction sounds like something Simon Cowell would say right before he’d push the Golden Buzzer, after your AMAZING BEYOND AMAZING performance. As you read this lovely piece, your eyes widen a little more with every passing second until… come to the part where it says “BUT”, aur phir aap ki ankein tou phatt hi rihi thi, sath kaleeeja bhi phat jaata hai. You read it over and over and over just to make sure and for the initial five minutes you feel numb. (Note: The amount of sugar coating of the words is directly proportional to the size and name of the company)

Despite how much effort you put in for this internship or MT program, whether it was preparation that took a few days or preparation that didn’t take place at all, You probably will play “In the end” by Linkin park on repeat for a particular time period (length Depending on how hard you actually tried and wanted it). At this point regardless of how close you are to your loved ones, you will consider not telling them unless they ask or you just randomly breakdown at the dinner table one day, thinking about it.

After what seems like forever, aap “It’s always darkest before the dawn” ka naaara laga kar, bhoolnay ki koshish kartay ho. Until you get these articulately written letters again..and again and again. What makes it worse is that some of your friends will get in, which is great, but since you can’t make it to these companies to, you start making lists of “Reasons to stay friends” With these people instead, not because you’re jealous or don’t want them to be happy but because witnessing the torture of them trying to console you tends to become unbearable. I mean,STOP! Please! Just be happy for yourself, let’s celebrate YOUR acceptance and my… introduction part, that sounds like an acceptance. Don’t tell me “Awwh I wish you got in too” or “Hey plenty more fish in the sea” I don’t even like fish, or “Bhai tu nai hoga tou kaam per wingman ab kon hoga?” – The only man you need right now is someone who very conveniently screams “Trimmer Laooo” and means it.

But as much as the world hates clichés, Every cloud has a silver lining. You will get super close to people who are sailing the same glorious boat of rejection, Connection itna strong hota hai ke aisa lagta hai unko dunya me aanay se pehlay jantay ho. After countless rejections, and not believing seniors who tell you, “It will all work out” (which you really should listen to because they’ve been passengers of the same boat at some point in life, but we don’t anyways because mauqa bohot naazooq hota hai aur future line per hota hai), you seriously consider initiating a startup with your newly found family member (The person who got the same amount of unfavourable letters as you) or embracing the fact that now, Unemployment is your new best friend.

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Welcoming Corporate rejections with open arms 🙂 🙂 🙂

”Entering into University life, the word ‘Rejection’  becomes a constant companion. It’s like that person in high school, who was the most annoying little shit, but was the only one who stayed through the years and now you’ve sort of accepted their presence in your life…….”

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